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Making the bed

Kayleigh used to be like any other child around - impossible to get to make her bed - ever. It was a good thing that she only had a bottom sheet and a doona, so it was easy to pick up and make look straight. Then around the time she went to high school she starting taking more care of her things - and starting making her bed. Now I am not talking about throwing the doona on an straightening it out a little, Kayleigh was fastidious when it came to the bed - it had to be perfect. The doona had to be placed symmetrically on the bed, with the same amount of doona on either side. She then pulled the bed out a little from the wall and tucked in one side, then squashed the bed against the wall to make sure the doona didn't move. Kayleigh then pulled the other side tight and tucked it in. Lastly she would get Natassja to hold one end while she pulled the doona tight at the bottom of the bed and tucked it in - thus she had a perfect bed with no wrinkles. Nothing annoyed Kayleigh more than someone lying (or sitting) on the bed after she had made it, as it meant she would have to de-wrinkle the bed after. I did it many time, both accidentally and on purpose (in fun) just to see her flip her lid, roll her eyes and tell you to get off her bl**dy bed.

Reasons for the songs we chose

I have spoken over the months to people how have remarked on the songs that we chose to play at Kayleigh's funeral and alot of the time the reason that we chose the songs we did was hard to explain in a short meaningful way so I thought I would write it down here.

Foo  Fighters ' Let it Die' from Foo Fighters 'Echoes Silence Patience & Grace 'album.
The album was one of Kayleigh's favourite to listen to on record (yes VINYL) and Let it Die was her favourite song on the album. We choose this not only as  a song that Kayleigh loved, but as a question to the 'higher being' that took her away from us. Kayleigh liked this song as it starts of softly and slowly and got heavier and louder ending up with the singer almost screaming the words 'Why'd you have to go and let it die?'

Why'd you have to go and let it die?
Why'd you have to go and let it die?
In too deep and out of time.
Why'd you have to go and let it die?

Do you ever think of me?
You're so considerate.
Do you ever think of me?
Oh, so considerate.

In too deep and lost in time
Why'd you have to go and let it die?

Celine Dion ' My Heart Will Go On' - Kayleigh's most favourite song in the whole world - previously written about in this blog.

Lily Allen ' F**k You" from her 'It's not Me, It's You" album
This song Kayleigh had as her ringtone for a while until she realised that it might go off at an inappropriate time and embarrass her. Kayleigh loved Lily Allen and I know people thought we chose this song as a f**k you to the higher being - but our reason was quite different. The song is a 'happy' song with an uplifting beat - that reflected Kayleigh's happy bubbly personality. The lyrics of the song also reflects a lot of Kayleigh's opinions of people that were small minded and didn't think of other people and imposed their ideas without compromise.

Look inside, Look inside your tiny mind
And look a bit harder
Cuz we're so uninspired
So sick and tired of all the hatred you harbor

So you say, It's not okay to be gay
Well i think you're just evil
You're just some racist
Who cant tie my laces
You're point of view is medieval

Fuck you, Fuck you
Fuck you very very much
Cuz we hate what you do
And we hate you're whole crew
So please don't stay in touch

School: Year 8: Science

For Science in Year 8, Kayleigh had Ms Thompson (again). At the start of the year Kayleigh's class list had her in Level 3, which I thought was a little odd considering she did so well in Level 2 the previous year. Kayleigh was a little confused as well, but didn't say anything to the teacher so I had to call the school and ask Ms Thompson myself why they had dropped her down a level. It turned out to be an error and they quickly rectified it and put Kayleigh back into Level 2. Kayleigh again did well at the practical side of Science and did well in her Test. Ms Thompson said at parent teacher night how much Kayleigh had applied herself and how much she helped explain concepts to other students in the class who were having trouble. The assignment in Science was to make a Biome and Kayleigh chose to do a coral reef. For the biome itself we got a plaster kit from Bunnings of fish shapes, which Kayleigh made and painted. Kayleigh then foraged around our backyard for plants that could be used as coral and for rocks. The finished biome weighed a ton - I have no idea how she managed to ride her bike to school with it. The written part of the biome she had a little bit of trouble with, but I showed her how to format it is so it was easy to read and make sure she answered the questions correctly. When Kayleigh got home a week after the assigment was handed in she was very excited to say the she got the second highest mark in the grade. She showed me the marking sheet and I noticed Ms Thompson had forgotten to mark one of the criteria so Kayleigh took it back the next day and got Ms Thompson to correct it - Kayleigh now had to joint top mark - but then noticed (again) Ms Thomspon had only added 1 mark instead of the 2 marks that the criteria had. Kayleigh didn't have time to get Ms Thompson to fix it. Natassja brought the plaster fish home and Terence has stored them in a special place to remind us of Kayleigh.

School: Year 8: PE

For PE in Year 8, Kayleigh had Mr George - she was a little disappointed at first because she really wanted Ms Peachey, but Mr George was the second best so she was OK with it. Where as most girls in High School hate PE, Kayleigh loved it and was always in the fray with whatever game they were playing. Several time Kayleigh came home telling me how she had done something in PE and the other girls just sat around talking instead of participating. Kayleigh biggest thrill though was playing tackle football with the boys because none of the other girls would do it. Kayleigh even asked me to call Mr George and say it was OK for her to do it as he was a little concerned she was taking on the boys. I was told at parent teacher night in May that Kayleigh was outstanding in PE for her enthusiasm and willingness to give anything a go. Mr George was impressed that Kayleigh was competitive and would play tackle football - although he thought the boys were a little soft on her because she was a girl and they probably didn't want to hurt her or accidentally put their hands in an inappropriate spot :/ thus making it easier for Kayleigh to score a try. Kayleigh was on track to get a high A in PE dependant on an assignment that was due mid June.

Surprise at Bunnings

We were walking through Bunnings the other day and in the tool section, where they have the builders pencils and markers I saw one where Kayleigh had writeen something. It was her nickname - and Natassja has also signed it. As soon as I saw it I knew I had to have it, so I tore off the front of the box (I know, naughty me) :O

Now that I am thinking about it, Kayleigh always played with the pens at Bunnings when Terence was looking at tools. Mostly she just drew lines and pictures - but obviously with this particular one she wrote Leluu. S.

Family: Anthony

Many of Kayleigh friends might not know this, but Kayleigh has an older half-brother Anthony. Kayleigh saw Anthony every second weekend from when she was born up until a couple of years ago. as you would expect half-siblings that don't live with each other are bound to clash, especially when they are both eldest children - although Kayleighs personality was much stronger than Anthonys in the end so she definitely ruled the kids here.

As children Kayleigh really worshipped Anthony - the cooler big brother that she saw when he came over - he is 4 years older than Kayleigh. She got to play all the games that he wanted to play and since he was bigger she could play fight with him, which she couldn't do with her younger siblings.

As they got older, the dynamic changed. Anthony really didn't like visiting much and Kayleigh took it personally and also took offense that he didn't want to visit her dad and mum (she was very loyal). Several times she asked anthony outright why he didn't want to visit and he never gave her an answer she was happy with. When Anthony reached 15 we gave him the choice whether he wanted to visit and he chose not to except occasionally when it suited him. He was a typical teenager by that stage and started smoking and drinking - which Kayleigh found completely disgusting. Kayleigh mentioned to me that she though he was an idiot for smoking and not looking after himself.

I think to final thing that really got to Kayleigh with Anthony was something that happened when Kayleigh was in Year 7. Anthony was seeing a girl that went to calwell high and one day was hanging around with his friends waiting to see her at lunchtime. They got bored and broke into the bike racks and vandalised a couple of bikes, The one that Anthony decided to damage happened to be Kayleighs (although he didn't know it at the time). When Kayleigh finished for the day she found her seat pulled off and her tyres flat and the pedals half undone. She had to walk her bike home. As Kayleigh had seen Anthony hanging around a couple of times before, Terence called Anthony and asked him if a couple of his friends had been at the school that day and damaged some bikes. He muffed around and didn't answer. We saw his mother a couple of days later and she mentioned that Anthony was really pissed with himself because he'd damaged his sisters bike.

Kayleigh never really saw Anthony after that - she did love him in a way - he was her brother - but the things he did did not meet up with her way of thinking.